An Interesting Personality Discovery.

Tonight as I was blog surfing, I found a test that I decided everyone needs to take and also make their partner take. It's called the RHETTI sampler.  I took it, and realized some things about myself that I have been trying to push deep down inside; not embracing.

I have so many ideas in my brain telling me negative thoughts: "You're not ____" and "You're too_____" or "You're never going to be ____." To be perfectly honest, it is EXTREMELY exhausting listening to that all day long jumbling around in there. I just want to be happy in my skin, happy in my home, and happy in my head.

Finding this test and opening up my knowledge about my own needs, produced as judgment-free information, was just what I needed at the end of this long week. I am planning on having Eli take the test also so that we can better understand each other. There is an awesome section on relationships, and how to make your personality differences function in an effective and loving way. I hope you all go check it out...even if it's just for fun.

Just on case you were wondering, here are a few things about me (taken from the site):

The Helper (The Two)

Helpers are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other people's needs.
How to Get Along with Me

• Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.
• Share fun times with me.
• Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours.
• Let me know that I am important and special to you.
• Be gentle if you decide to criticize me.

In Intimate Relationships
• Reassure me that I am intersting to you.
• Reassure me often that you love me.
• Tell me I'm attractive and that you're glad to be seen with me.

What I Like About Being a Two

• being able to relate easily to people and to make friends
• knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better
• being generous, caring, and warm
• being sensitive to and perceptive about others' feelings
• being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor

What's Hard About Being a Two

• not being able to say no
• having low self-esteem
• feeling drained from overdoing for others
• not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish
• criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should
• being upset that others don't tune in to me as much as I tume in to them
• working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real feelings

Twos as Children Often

• are very sensitive to disapproval and criticism
• try hard to please their parents by being helpful and understanding
• are outwardly compliant
• are popular or try to be popular with other children
• act coy, precocious, or dramatic in order to get attention
• are clowns and jokers (the more extroverted Twos), or quiet and shy (the more introverted Twos)

Twos as Parents

• are good listeners, love their children unconditionally, and are warm and encouraging (or suffer guilt if they aren't)
• are often playful with their children
• wonder: "Am I doing it right?" "Am I giving enough?" "Have I caused irreparable damage?"
• can become fiercely protective